Week 11: The Mask of Codependency

Try Softer  Aundi Kobler

Strong Like Water Aundi Kobler

Gabor Mate' Ted Talk "The 7 Impacts of Trauma" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5jmsJAClpw

• Self-Sufficient Mask: People may need me, but I don’t need anyone

• Fortress Mask: This will protect me from getting too close to people who will hurt me

• Take Charge Mask: I have to be in control so I won’t get hurt

• Superior Mask: If I look better than others, then I will be accepted

• Victim Mask: Everyone is trying to hurt me

• Party Mask: I have to be the life of the party to be accepted.

• Please Mask: I can’t say “no” because I will only be liked if I am needed

• Vanity Mask: My value comes from my outward appearance 

• Rescuer Mask: I am responsible for others’ problems, feelings, or behaviors

• Performance Mask: My value is based on my appearance and how well I measure up

• Happy Mask: People only like me if I am happy and fun to be around

• “I can do it” Mask: Asking for help is a sign of weakness

• Perfectionist Mask: I won’t be liked if I make mistakes

• Rebel Mask: I’m part of the crowd when I go against my values

• Flirtatious Mask” I must be pursued to have value

From Betrayal and Beyond Workbook